You Can't Always Get What You want
Every year I learn and/or get certified in at least one new modality or tool. Sometimes it directly benefits my work. Other times indirectly or not at all.
Some past examples include: reiki 1 and 2, hypnotherapy, a positive psychology-based 360 review for leaders, the principles assessment for individuals and teams, and a culture assessment for mid to large-sized organizations. And, of course, without any credentials or certificates that come with it, I've been in the deep end of learning how to be a parent for the last 18 months.
This year, I committed to a part-time 6-month program at my alma mater, emory university, called their 'advanced executive coaching diploma'. I dedicated 10+ hours/month to class time and about the same to outside assignments (peer coaching, learning circles, materials to read, etc).
I went in with high hopes and a lot of enthusiasm. As it progressed, my enthusiasm and hopes waned. I realized quickly that what I thought I might gain from it (sharper, deeper tools to bring to my coaching practice) wouldn't be the case.
What I did gain was confirmation of my skillset. After 7 years doing this work full-time, I was pleasantly surprised to recognize that each module of the program, from the foundations of coaching, to brain-based coaching, to family systems, were all elements I'd previously integrated successfully to support clients. It was assuring to hear professors and other seasoned coaches teach these subjects and show the class how to bring them to the work and to realize I'd found my way to these skills intuitively and with self-study.
We recently 'graduated' from the program and I'm walking away with a greater confidence in the tools I have as well as the implementation of them to help my clients reach their goals.
Sidebar: saying this feels uncomfortable. Concerns pop up in my head that someone will read this and think I'm boasting or cocky. I promise I'm not, on either front. (confidence has always been my achilles heel.) I'm saying this to assuage those inner voices, for my own growth, and to encourage anyone else who might struggle similarly.
The program was a big commitment of time, energy, and money. It was also a great reminder that we don't always get what we want, but we can still find value in it.
I'm curious: what's an experience you're having that isn't matching what you'd hoped, but where you can still find benefit?
To what’s possible, Darrah
Ps I also added another new skill this year: ballroom dancing! I may consider learning to do magic in the future. If you have any tips for great teachers or places to learn, let me know!